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Another long post incoming so get some coffee.

Friday
Friday at work ended poorly. I had a spat with someone I consider close (still) and we;ll here’s the shortened version. Turtle messages me and says ‘Hey what are you doing tonight? I’ve asked all my friends if they are busy and nobody wants to hang out. I get her on chat and we start talking. She was throwing a pity party and wanted someone else to attend. That’s fine and all and I understand that she’s not in a good place so I offer her up friendship and companionship but the caveat is I have to stay home that evening. I had to get the place clean and do a few small chores before I could go out or devote myself to her needs of attention. Well she declined but the way she did so was rather hurtful. She tells me that she’s not interested in doing what I’m doing and basically ‘No Thanks’. I was hurt because I offered my friendship up and I felt that she snubbed her nose to me. This was not and hopefully is not the person I know. I felt degraded, humiliated, dejected, rejected and belittled.

My buddy Pirate comes over and brings his girlfriend. They were supposed to be here around 21:00-ish and didn’t show up until 23:00.  Pirate wanted to show off his new girlfriend and shoot some pool. He’s a great guy and I love him dearly but I’ll never understand his taste in women or in this case girls. His new girlfriend is quite young (of legal age — enough to drink plus two). The problem I foresee though, if it was my relationship, is that she acts her age. She’s not much to look at and wears clothes that are way too small for her belly so she’s constantly pulling at her clothes. The physical appearance that she gives though isn’t what makes her unattractive or at least to me. It’s how she carries herself. For instance, Pirate and I have been playing pool for years together now. This girl comes along and makes one ball in a match we have going and she’s taunting Pirate and I about how much better she is then we are. This would be fine if she was better then us but she’s not. It seems like she feels that she has to prove herself in everything rather then accepting that there are just things she doesn’t know. If you don’t know something thats awesome in my book. It gives you some new place to grow and learn. Oh well, I hope that Pirate is happy and if as I predict things don’t go well I’ll be there to pick up his pieces and reassemble him. Oh yeah…did I mention that this girl has already been married at 23 and has an ex-husband that is supposedly abusive and a stalker? Nice huh?

Saturday
Saturday I had a date with EM a.k.a. Sawdust girl. I called her sawdust girl because her phone skills are very lacking. Perhaps it’s because I hate talking on the phone but more so it’s because I was always driving the conversation. In person she’s much different and very cute. She calls me at 09:30 to confirm that we are still on which is a good thing. It’s a damn good thing she called because I was still sleeping.  I rushed out the door and headed to Mountain View. We had arranged to meet at a Starbucks there. She can hold a conversation decently and the lulls in the conversation seemed minimal but it was cold outside that day. After a while I had to get inside and we headed to the pastry shop nearby and stole a seat there. Our conversation continued and went well. We talked about each others family and likes/dislikes. After a bit she had to go and work. I walked her to the bus stop and waited with her until her bus was ready to go. A quick hug and off she went. I think I’d like to see her again but I’m not sure. There weren’t sparks or a connection that people speak of but she’s a nice gal and I made a new friend at the very least.

Star and I had planned to go to the beach with some friends but the weather did not accommodate anyone else wanting to go. Too bad because it was a lot of fun and we had a great time…until the rangers came. We were supposed to head out at around 18:00 so we could get there at 19:00 in case anyone decided to go. I called after my date with EM and Star said call me later. This was about 14:00 or so. At 18:00 I call again and she says sure lets go, I’ll be there in a bit. OK so how long is a bit I’m wondering? Apparently it’s a few hours. Around 21:00 Star and JJ show up. I was a bit peeved. Mainly because I had invited others and Star knew this but didn’t seem to take this into consideration. She and JJ were playing pool or I imagine she was playing with him from the conversation that I overheard. I was also miffed because this was the second day that someone didn’t seem to give a shit. I know it’s not, or hope it’s not, the truth but damn what was going on? Was there something that I needed or was missing? Did I forget to take some special pill that balanced me out?

As I waited for them I made some of the most awesome buffalo chicken strips. I had never made these before and I even surprised myself how well they turned out. I shared some with Fishy, Star and JJ as we had our yummy burritos and got ready to go.

After a while we headed out and I was able to find myself again. I put on the positive hat and tried to have a good time. It worked for the most part. The two of them still told secrets in my presence which was annoying but nothing that irked me too much I suppose. We went to the beach and nobody was there. After grabbing some wood from the backyard we had plenty for a fire in the sand, It took a bit to get the fire going but we did it and we had fun. We talked about everything from sex to politics and just about everything in between. Good times and they helped pick me from a place that I could have sulked in for a while. The rangers came around 23:00 or a bit after that and flashed their lights. Apparently this  means we have to go. We packed up what we had brought except for the firewood as it was still burning and headed home. As we left we continued our conversations and said goodbye to a nice evening.

Sunday
JJ and I had made plans to go to temple but knowing him he was going to bail but I accepted him anyway. He bailed and I went. It was good. I like going there because it helps me recenter myself and be the person I know I am. It helps me just let the worries and troubles go; let them vanish like a bad memory and move on with life. On my way home I grabbed a coffee and thought about the sermon. It made me grateful for being me and being who I am. I am so grateful for all that I have and all that I will accomplish in my life.

After temple, Orchid and I had made plans to go play and have a day together. The only two items that we had in mind that were definates were Col Lees and going to see Indy. The weather again was a bit chilly so we decided to go have a girls day in the spa. Off to one of my favorite guilty pleasures…Madame Jolie.

On our way to the manicure/pedicure estrogen fest we fond a house that we wanted to tour. So the open house was nice and not pushy. I liked that quite a bit as it let us explore and have fun. The house was only $4 million and change but it was awful nice. It even had a wine cellar. Though the wine cellar was stocked with a few bottles it was amazing that the realtor had chosen two-buck chuck to stock the cellar with.

Orchid had never had a pedicure before so I was excited to hear her review on what she thought. She loved it apparently. I think her words were "Thank you for introducing me to a new guilty pleasure of my own" or something similar. I was ecstatic. Usually I get some snide comment from people but not from her or at least not today. During the pedicure she kept trying to get me to color my nails. No thanks, getting a pedicure is already diving into my man-bank savings account rather heavily. Though it was funny when she did tease me about it. The even funnier part was when the girls at the salon also started chiming in and trying to get me to paint my nails with her. Man I was out numbered big time. I stood my ground and declined.

Orchid picked a awesome color. Ruby by ORLY Color number 40363. OK so it seemed a bit dark in the bottle but when she had it on my man-bank was suddenly replenished. I can’t say enough how much this color looked so good on her. One coat was pretty, two coats was OMG sexy and three coats was just pure passion waiting to be released. She  also got a manicure and the gal who had the horrible task of giving me a pedicure asked me if I wanted one too. I had never had one before so I thought ‘Heck, let’s make it a first for both of us’.  Again I’m assaulted with ‘what color did you want?’ multiple times. I go to pay and the ladies in the other room all ask what color did you get? Sheesh ladies! As I paid, this was my treat since Orchid hadn’t done this before, I found an awesome pair of sunglasses for only $5 bucks! How could I pass that up? So I didn’t and now I have a new pair of cheap-o sunglasses. Ever notice how the cheap ones stay around while the costly ones go bye-bye really quickly?

After getting my girlness taken care of we headed out to the movie with our squishy feet. This was the second time I had seen Indy and I still liked it. Though the ending is odd I again was able to suspend reality and just enjoy. Orchid didn’t like it too much but she didn’t hate it. We both came out of the show with smiles so it was a good flick in my book.

We headed to Col Lees and had some noodle goodness. The place has changed and not only in appearance. The biscuits are different and not in a good way, the service is sloppy, the noodles are not the same and overall it’s just different then the Col Lees that I knew and loved. I’ll still frequent it a enjoy what I can but it’s just not the same.

On our way out we saw the oddest thing. A huge set of rims that were half as tall as Orchid. She and I had a good laugh at this as we walked to the car. Then we saw another one!! Geez people I mean really do you need to have 21" rims on your car? Anyway it was amusing. She drove me home and I gave her a quick hug and thanked her for a great evening as I went into the house and passed out.

Monday
I did a little meditation and set some incense up as I said some prayers for the troops. Then I logged on to WoW and played all day. I did three loads of laundry and cleaned the room a bit but other then that Monday was a waste. A very enjoyable waste.

Tomorrow is another day. let’s see what fun we can make and what happiness I can find in the world.